Toyah Willcox - Private Life

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In 2004, Willcox appeared in the series Have I Been Here Before? in which she was taken back in a past life regression in which she appeared to be an anchoress in a Dutch church (although she appeared in the 1993 film Anchoress). She confessed to having always felt as if she is a male spirit trapped in a female body and that she has always felt as if she never fits in, and believes that her life as a short woman is punishment for something she did as a male in a past life.

Willcox married Robert Fripp of King Crimson in 1986 in Poole, Dorset. "I got married because I had found my soul mate, not because I wanted to be married", she said in a 2008 interview.

Shortly after her marriage, Willcox underwent a sterilisation operation. She is incapable of carrying a child full-term due to her childhood illnesses and has said that neither she nor her husband wants children. Later, asked if she had any regrets about the operation, Willcox said: "No. The morning I woke up from the operation I was in tears, I felt I'd interfered with my femininity; but since then, no. You don't have a child just because you're a woman, you have a child because you have a calling and I did not want to be put in a position of terminating a birth when I felt so strongly that actually psychologically being pregnant would damage me. It was something that I really, really thought about and I perhaps suffered for six weeks after but, since then, it's been a liberation". However, she and her husband have arranged their wills so as to leave their entire fortune to the establishment of a musical educational trust for children.

For the first 19 years of their marriage the couple lived largely separate lives due to the demands of their careers: she in Pershore, Worcestershire, UK, Fripp in the US, and rarely saw each other for more than 12 weeks every year. "But in semi-retirement now, so he's home, I cook for him twice a day and I really like it. We're having lovely lovely autumn years of our marriage, it's really nice", Willcox said in a 2006 radio interview.