An Aspect of Familiarity
Orgasm control requires a degree of skill. It requires enough familiarity with either a partner or one's own responses to be able to vary the intensity and the timing of the stimulation accurately. If there is too little stimulation, or if it is reduced too soon, the experience is not as intense as it could have been. If there is too much stimulation, a person may pass the point of no return and orgasm will inevitably occur.
Familiarity and daily routine are often catalogued as the two main factors that breed boredom and contempt in a long-term relationship. Although these particular factors are thought to be responsible for most problems that arise in time in the couples' sex lives, it has been brought to attention that individuals are more likely to be able to control their orgasm with a person they are emotionally connected to and familiar with rather than with an individual who does not play an important role in their lives.
Familiarity with one's partner is thought to play an important role in helping individuals better understand their limits in what concerns sexual stimulation and its intensity. This aspect of orgasm control is mainly based on the idea that the entire practice is an acquired skill. This skill can only be developed through practice. Generally, individuals who practice the technique of orgasm control try it with the same person and discover their own limits. Knowing one's limits in this matter is mandatory to be able to control the amount and intensity of the sexual stimulation so one can postpone the orgasm as much as possible. Moreover, practicing orgasm control with the same partner for longer periods of time is more likely to be more successful in achieving the goal. The reason behind this is perhaps the fact that the communication is more open between partners that are familiar with one another. Nonetheless, as orgasm control is an acquired skill, the technique is usually successful if both partners are aware of the others' limits.
On the other hand, familiarity in this matter can be regarded from another perspective. In order to be able to control one's orgasm, individuals must have a solid knowledge of their own body and how their body reacts at different levels of sexual arousal. Therefore, orgasm control is also closely connected with the familiarity between an individual and his/her own body. Being aware of the body's limits in what concerns the intensity and duration of sexual stimulation is mandatory in order to be able to postpone climaxing. However, this is a technique that is learned by every person with time and which requires consistent practice. In the end, orgasm control is all about knowing one's own body and it is not so much about the skills of the partner.
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