Commentators' Perspectives
Some critics such as Henry Makow and psychologist Gary R. Brooks believe that the sexual revolution has socially conditioned men into believing that they need both the approval from and companionship of beautiful women for validation. Meanwhile, some social conservatives such as Dr. Judith Reisman claim that pornography has increased internal anxiety amongst both sexes and has made men and women feel generic and possibly worthless, leading them to become heterophobes and inevitably incel.
What tends to be overlooked in these types of commentaries is that some of the most desired men and women are, inexplicably, also among the involuntarily celibate, which makes it unlikely that pressuring women to date and/or marry less desirable men or vice versa through a sense of "duty" or obligation, as was the case before the sexual revolution, would actually in itself put a stop to the incel phenomenon, whether for men in particular or either gender generally.
In the February 16, 2012 edition of the Avenue section of The Independent Florida Alligator, writer Ryan Galloway, who is not involuntarily celibate but whose direction in life points towards similar ends, titles his piece "The 25-year-old Virgin Speaks Out about Sex and Love", arguing that the accumulation of sexual experience — and the obtaining of sexual intercourse in particular — is "not a big deal". Galloway criticizes what he sees as the over-sexualization of present-day human history, "as fiery and hot as it is," and asks: "Who said I have to experiment in order to figure out how to do things? I found some STD stats that would suggest that I don't." Given that involuntarily celibate individuals by definition are compelled by circumstance, rather than choice, towards the state of not having a sex life, Galloway's proclamations may be viewed psychoanalytically as exhibiting some or another form of self-justifying behavior, but may be significant nevertheless.
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