Erotic Denial As A Form of Control
Erotic sexual denial, in various forms, is sometimes associated with creating a state of sexual need leading to a more pliable or agreeable outlook by the denied party.
Orgasm denial practices can allow topping partners to exercise control and training over highly intimate and psychologically significant aspects of their bottoming partners' lives. This can extend to tolerance of increased stimulation, and training both to hold back orgasm, or to orgasm on command. Topping partners can use this practice to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power. Bottoming partners can use this practice to help them experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of erotic submission, sexualised objectification, and erotic loss of control.
Orgasm denial as a means of orgasm control is a widely practiced activity within erotic feminization. The top will often deny the bottom (the male bottom) sexual release to maintain his heightened state of sexual arousal, as a means to satisfy his desires for emasculation or erotic humiliation, or as a means to satisfy the top's own desires to emasculate and erotically humiliate.
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