Brutalized By Adolescence Boyfriend
In June 2007 Rehman told about an abusive relationship which she had been in through her three years of secondary school 1993–1997. She detailed the relationship in an article called "The First Blow" for the Norwegian women's magazine HENNE ("Her") where she was one of three guest editors of a special issue, "HENNE mot vold" ("HENNE Against Violence"). The article which she dedicated to the victims of abuse focuses on the feelings of shame and guilt which accompany such experiences of victimization. Although some people knew about the abuse, at the time she had told nobody about the full extent of it. Rehman did not express bitterness towards her former abuser, which she considers as much a victim as she was. At the time she was living in a juvenile home. In August 2008 Shabana Rehman announced that she was writing a book about this ordeal, to be published later in the year. The title of the book is going to be Blåveis, which is a Norwegian word with double meaning, both the name of a beautiful spring flower, hepatica as well as the colloquial term for a black eye.
Read more about this topic: Shabana Rehman Gaarder, Personal History
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