Ayyavazhi Marriage - Marriage Ceremony

Marriage Ceremony

The wedding ceremony is celebrated in the brides's residence and so the bridegroom and his relatives arrive there while auspicious music is played. Immediately after the bride groom's arrival, the bride's relatives welcome them at the entrance by sprinkling fragrant waters and sandal. Then both groups move to the marriage hall. In the first part of the ceremony, the bride is made to be seated in the Kamanam for some practices. The wedding garments of the bride are brought by the bridegroom and so the bride is taken and dressed in them. Meanwhile the bridegroom is seated at the place arranged for him in the kamanam. The bridegroom wears a head-gear called a Thalaippagai. A five-faced Kuthu vilakku (oil lamp) lighted and placed near the panividai in front of the couple. Then the bride is brought back and seated to the left of the bride groom. The couple is seated facing the geographic south facing the mythical Dwaraka pathi, which is believed to be in the sea. It is assumed as if Ayya as Siva is conducting the marriage from the place of Guru. Also it is believed that all the deva-sangam are invited to the marriage and are seated in the Kamanam during the ceremony of marriage to bless the couple. Apart from the couple, the guru, preferably an elder man, a Payyan or a Thangal Panividaiyalar is seated in the Manavarai. Children, especially girls with small lighted lamps in trays standceremoniously around the Kamanam. All others remain seated around the Kamanam.

Then the ceremony of marriage begins. The guru applies the sacred Namam to the forehead of the bride and the groom. He also recites the Kalyana Vazhthu of Arul Nool, while the relatives follow along. The Kalyana vazhthu has three phases and contains fifty-six verses. The first phase tells how the marriage is arranged by Narayana. It also describes the giant ceremonious arrangements, practices and decorations for the marriage. It is meant in the way that all the Deva-sangha arrived there, accepting the invitation of Narayana, the father of Santror. The second phase is the sacred quotes for marriage. It consists of two verses;

"Arahara endru ammai-umai thaamezhunthu"

"Siva-siva endru thiru-charadu Serthanare."

The first line is repeated five times during which the bridegroom prepares with divine mind. Then while the guru chants the second line he use to tie it around the neck of the bride. The relatives gather around and wish the couple luck by throwing flowers over them. Drums and all other music is played. The third phase is meant in the way that all the devas praise and wish the couple for their divine and prosperous life, in the name of Vaikundar. It is a congregational-singing. Normally, this chanting lasts about seven minutes. This marriage custom in Ayyavazhi is simple and all the prayer forms and the mantras are in Tamil language.

Then the husband use to wear a garland to his wife and then the vice versa. Then the husband by holds his wife's hands, and circles the Kamanam five times. The girls with the lighted lamps follow them. After the couple is again seated in the Kamanam all the close relatives individually wish the couple good fortune by sprinkling the holy 'Patham' over their head five times.

After the wedding meals the bridegroom takes his wife to his residence. The meal during Ayyavazhi marriages is strictly vegetarian. The guru who leads the marriage ceremony will be served first.