Sant Thakar Singh - Teachings - Love Versus Attachment

Love Versus Attachment

Love is the criterion for the life of a human being. God is Love and love is God and the way back to God is also through Love, as the Master is Love Personified and the Sound Current is also a conscious current of love. However, the only true form of love from the perspective of life lived in this world, is called devotion. All other forms of love are either debased through egotism or else a form of confusion and delusion, brought on at the level of mind.

The nature of romantic love as a form of suffering is relentlessly analyzed:

Sometimes it happens that someone is interested in us for some reason, and we are also interested in that person for some reason of our own, and then we are friendly to each other. Then we believe in each other because we each need something from each other. For example, if I have some food and the other one has some fruit, and he needs food and I need fruit, then we cooperate with each other and become friendly with each other due to the interchange of our selfish motives. We misinterpret this exchange of selfish motives to be love, but it is not. All the worldly relationships and friendships are based on give and take, I am sorry to say...

Fundamentally, no one can love unless they are connected to God, as God is the source of Love and is sometimes described as Love itself. Our minds, on the other hand, are totally devoid of love:

Any person who is not working through God is always selfish. If anybody claims, “I love somebody,” and does not have this love connected from God, then it is not real love. It cannot be. It is impossible. ...The mind has only selfish love, selfish connections, selfish feelings—and no real love at all. That is how all the people at every level (in this world) are operating. However, the love we have for our children is not mental love. The love we have for our children is an arrangement of nature from God. But once the children are grown up, then that special system of love that was arranged by God is taken away, and again we have only the system of selfish exchange.

All relationships fall away in what might be called the doctrine of individual responsibility:

Guru Nanak, when he was to set out for his great expedition to save the souls of the world, he had got old parents, he was the only son to support to look after them and that his wife was also there dependent only upon him. Two small children were also there who were just made orphans if he goes away. In this state of the life when he was not really rich person that his family has so much money after him that they will be able to go along with that great money. He was just a poor person. But he did not take care of his family and he went out and God was there to take care of his family everything. This is the reality that a man is not responsible for any other man. No one is father, no one is child, no one is mother, no one is sister, no one is brother, it is only some kind of confusions which had been made by the evil, by the negative power just to keep the people confused. Everybody is child of God, everybody is having God, everybody is having kingdom of God and everybody is directly connected, nobody is mediator in between.