Kotowari (excuse, Apology, Refusal)
If the initial miai introduction is successful, the potential couple will go through a series of dates until a decision is reached. The decision is usually expressed at the couple’s third meeting. If the potential couple chooses to marry one another, they will go through a formal marriage process known as miai kekkon (見合い結婚?), in which a betrothal ceremony (結納, yuinō?) will be arranged by the groom’s family. Contrastingly, there are standard provisions to turn down an offer or proposal with relatively little loss of face on the part of the party refused.
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