Feeling rules are socially shared norms that influence how we want to try to feel emotions in given social relations. This concept was introduced by sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild in 1979.
All human beings learn certain feeling rules but they differ according to culture, social class and gender. Feeling rules are usually highly flexible and their personal interpretation influences one's personality.
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